i cant get vcds to recognize the vag tacho cable OR will vcds recognize my kkl cable anymore so even though i have pin codes now i cant do anything with it in vcds nefmoto or anything else that i can figure out.
This is the first thing you need to fix. Probably a driver issue, is the light on the lead still coming on when you Iirc vagtacho uses special drivers, maybe these are being used for the kkl lead too and stopping it working. Is the light on the lead coming on when you turn the igntion on and plug it in?
also my wife installed the battery backwards and now my radio is DEAD. im less worried about that though. I just need this nightmare to be over and to run!!!!!!!!
Check the fuses on top of the battery in case any have blown. Was this after your issues with the key matching/cluster? You could immo off as a stopgap?