For clarity, I meant with VCDS making sure it's coded as an AR and not an A6. You will also probably find that you need to recode for cruise control. Obviously check the suspension control module for error messages as well (all modules, for that matter). Most people I would say start with using VCDS or something similar and then progress to tuning; you maybe have gone about it the other way?
lol. i really appreciate most of that info, thank you for taking the time to respond and as for me going about it "your wrong way" IDK, I think Im doing ok. i managed to unbrick my ECU without any help from any nefmoto soup nazi's (until now of coarse) cars seems to be running pretty well actually, fixed cruise and a few other things ( I have vcds lite and was able to barrow vcds from a friend. Im no expert with it or anything but Ive never really needed it for anything but checking trouble codes and logging until now and considering that I think Ive handled it pretty well. i made it all the way thru this entire situation until now on my own, I didnt ask anyone on here to do it for me or even for a point in the right direction and thats a shame really bc i shouldnt Have felt like I was gonna get stuffed in my locker by one of you seniors< i shouldnt have known this is what would happen but I did and it did. Im sorry i wasnt able to figure it all out without asking a question, i should have known asking one question was asking too much in a noob thread for a bricked ECU but I was trying to have a positive outlook dispite the people on here like you who are incapable of helping someone without making them feel bad about asking for help. Dont worry sir I promise it wont happen again, I swear.