I tuned a Focus ST which has the same ME 17.5 with SCT's software this past weekend with an XCal3 port flasher and "SCT Advantage" software. Friday I saw Cobb use their proprietary port flasher and software on A Mazda Speed 3 which also has an ME 17.5.
Good, so you are familiar with these ecus then. I googled a bit and found that even these newer 2.5l are not FSI (US market only). We don't have these ecus in europe (VAG), so cannot say anything specific to it. At first i thought you meant MED17, which is pretty complex to us mortals in the beginning of the learning curve.
I'm not familiar with SCT or Ford really, so cannot say what can and cannot be done.
I would imagine, if SCT software was freely configurable to any ecu, it would be used more widely already.
So i'm guessing when you load your file into it, it tells you automatically what is what.
Why/how is this ME 17.5 in a 2.5L VW Golf MK6 different from those cars?
Basic functionality is the same, firmwares may still be quite different. Allthough propably nothing you couldn't figure out. Car manufacturers might have different transfer protocols, encryptions, passwords, seed&keys and so on, that is why you cannot read or write all ecus with same tool.
What tools and software should I buy?
Is there any software to aid in finding maps? Or do I just need to move into the basement and live on pizza like the early ECU modding?
WinOLS by german company EVC is pretty much industry standard, allthough there are others. Demo version is freely downloadable from their website.
Will you please link me to a manual or to some books to read that will get me started?
Are there any? I don't know.
Why are only some cars ME 17.5 ECUs this convoluted? There are at least a half dozen cars with ME17.5 ECUs that are EASY to tune. Why is this one different?
If you say the others are easy, so is this one.