So will a 551R file be compatibile? On the wiki it gives a list of the ecu files and correndsponding engine codes etc. a 551R appears as me7.1 in European form but as me7.1.1 on North American form
Where do you see that? 4Z7..551R is me7.1.1, period.
4B0..551R is a totally different file.
So do I have to look for a EU 551R xdf?
No.
Also an EU 551H is very similar is there an xdf available for this, tried a search to no avail.
I don't see why you would do this.
And doing more searching in the wiki it seems that the 551M or mbox is compatible for an all road my model year and tip transmission, can someone verify this so I can get this show on the road?
No.
8D0...551M is manual.