Torque converter has different stall speeds and you are not going to be able to easily recalibrate it in the software.
If you want it to shift differently, instead of fucking with MDNORM just adjust the shift pressures for oncoming clutch and the ramp rates.
And just repair the current torque converter, sounds like it's hosed from what you describe.
You will not have somehow less vibration if you use a 3.0 TDI one...
And also as was said above, do NOT change MDNORM higher than 600nm (630 to be exact) on ME7.
I am okay how trans shift, problem comes when torque converter is in regulation phase. Then rpm bounce, but not only bounce when rpm drop the whole car start to vibrate. Similar when on manual cars the presure plate does not have flatt surface and you are relaseing clutch. Or double mass flywheel is stuck.
That vibration happen in every gear from 1000 to 1800 rpm, special uphill , if I hit full throtte it vibrate so much that whole car is shaking.
It is like something is not in balance, so if my converter does not have this TDD(described in SSP I put in attachmet above) because it is frkm 4.2 V8 than reparing this TC will solve bounce and slip, but not vibrations.
And that is reason why I want to put TC from V6 engine
I saw that 630Nm limit in FR but anywhay I tried to put it to 800 and it worked. Trans see bigger TQ
EDIT: here is proof, engine have stock map only changing MDNORM from 600 to 800
Edit 2: some facts:
1. I have Changed oil and filter in trans
2. After that I need to reset adataptions and trams will adapt by iself depending how worn it is
3. According to SSP transsmision will not start adataption as long there is a DTC in transsmision
4. I have dtc for can-bus getway,parking brake and ACC that I don't have time to solve right now
5. Until I don't solve this dtc and transsmision can start adataption I need car and I wanted to fix problem temoraly by raising pressure(torque on can-bus)
5. It is better, from 240 rpm slip now I am at 120 rpm slip maximum.
But after all investigation I will need to rebuild TC and I can only hope that vibration is caused by worn out friction plate that closes TC
Edit 3: same throttle, slight acceleration
https://youtu.be/xQkWqPVUbG0