I have the same ECU setup and it's driving me nuts as well. That looks like a HW III Family
https://imgur.com/a/fuJhSpxI first dumped mine with a MPPS, you need v21 (v18 cable will work with v21 software, but will brick after 10 uses). I was able to get it into bootloader mode by tagging on that resistor and shorting the boot pin to ground as I powered it up. I picked up a KESS, booted it by grounding the boot pin, and also letting KESS use it's boot wire, I still was not successful in getting into the 95160. And my MPPS is bricked now.
I just made a post about my 95160, I ended up getting a cheap CNH431 and a chip clip to dump it.
Just posted here:
http://nefariousmotorsports.com/forum/index.php?topic=20764.0title=Helpful links I have found:
https://s4wiki.com/wiki/Boot_modehttps://www.transpondery.com/pinouts/vag/me7x_pinout.htmlEdit: Since this is mostly just me messing around with stuff and learning, I did order up a carprog, which should work and I *think* claims it can do a dump fully over OBD.