What do you mean it's not working?

Do you know what an XDF is? And how it relates to your ECU bin file?

If you're completely new, start here: http://s4wiki.com/wiki/Tuning
Then here: http://nefariousmotorsports.com/forum/index.php?topic=6695.0title=

Don't rush it though. If you're planning to tune the car yourself, then you should flash back stock file and take your time. You'll be able to figure out most things in ~2months.

right on guys i was useing the mbox xdf but after scrolling and reading allot in the ecu xdf spot ive seem to find the correct xdt he says for the 551aa as far as that map goes im going to check it out im just looking into everything before i get another ecu. ive also eleminated the resinator and planned on getting rid of the cats and straight piping her with some 3ft cherry bombs i completely unders stand about the air fuel i just have never done anything with a car besides a holly carb lol thanks for the links ill be sure to check them out! if you guys have any other info on this engine as far as mods and ecu upgrade reads please let me know

ive actually read both of those and im not sure if i missed something along the way and im sorry if this is stupid but the s4 2.7 bin files are the same? my ecu says ME7.1.1 not the (ME7.1) also run into the part my ecu is 4Z7907551AA

KFLDHBN has nothing to do with FAR, if that is what you meant by including the map pic in your post.  KFLDHBN is there (along with other maps) to maintain a constant driving experience across an altitude range as well as protect the turbochargers.

Here is a good site explaining pressure ratio:

https://www.turbobygarrett.com/turbobygarrett/pressure_ratio

And no, you don't want to be leaner per se -- you want the correct ratio.  So while yes, there will be less fuel, it will still be in the correct proportion to available oxygen.   

You can raise KFLDHBN in the low and mid ranges (as one component of your tuning) but that will have no effect off the line.  You can raise the rpm allowable with left foot braking (s4wiki.com has the map names), but that won't help with day-to-day driving.

There's just not much to be gained at the top end; the K03s will be off the curve and do nothing but make a bunch of heat (and maybe worse).  It's just the way it is; physics is physics.

The M-Box is not compatible with ME7.1.1 (which you have).  Switch to a 4Z7907551R and tune using the xdf that's on this site.  It's very well defined, will have everything you need at this point.

But really (and I mean no disrespect), do some more reading and figure out what is what with respect to turbo engine performance in general and then layer on tuning.

You absolutely want a spare ECU on hand before doing anything.  You can clone your existing or turn off the immobilizer in the spare ecu (either short term while you sort out a bricked ecu or permanently).  It's in the early days you are most likely to fubar.

The AA actually has 15 peak hp more than the R or S (it is from the S-Line) but The R has the tables etc. well defined and does not require any mods to avoid a Programming Not Finished situation.  There are no operational differences that make any difference so far as I'm aware.  (You will need to code for cruise control with VCDS).

Yes, flash the R over the AA. (There are other compatible versions, but none that are fully defined.)  Make sure it's checksummed properly -- there's one file floating around that apparently has an RSA signature error.

The program isn't opening?  If that's it, it's a command-line program -- run the checker program  (and the sum-er program, for that matter) from a command window.

For the second part of your question, run the program without options and it will display usage (as the first post in the sticky says).